It sounds like common sense but knowing what you really want isn't as simple as it seems on the surface. As a "recovering good girl" I know how easy it is to live your life based on someone else's life plan - a parent, a spouse, your social group, even your kids.
If you are like most women, you like to help people and also like approval, so it's fairly effortless to step into the "best supporting" player in your own life. As a result, without even realizing it, you can forget what you really want and what makes you really happy.
In Victory by Design, I suggest values before vision. Here's how: Values
2. Choose a goal.
Once you have a good sense of your top five values, put together a vision board. Go through magazines to find pictures you like and cut them out. Vision Boards often help you clarify your desires into themes, like peace or prosperity, or into specific activities, like skiing or enjoying the beach. My first Vision Board was what I call a "lifestyle" board and it included pictures of success, travel, home furnishing, clothes and romance.
In my Vision Board webinar, I explain how Vision Boards work. Basically, even just the process of creating a Vision Board tickles the Law of Attraction. Using a Vision Board regularly magnifies that Law.
From a Vision Board, you can make a list of goals and put them in order of priorities.
Part of setting your goals is saying no to things that are not part of your goals...Prioritize yourself
Persistence is finding what isn’t working and not doing it anymore. But, as Seth Godin says (see the Secret to Persistence), it’s about focusing on the goal and changing what you are doing to achieve it. But change, even when you know it has to happen, isn’t easy. That’s where your victory comes into play. Victory is in the persistent stretches you make our of your comfort zone.
Here’s what you need to do:
- Figure out what isn’t working
- Take responsibility for it
- Choose something better – another process or direction; mastermind with your mentor or trusted colleagues
- Make a plan for implementation
- Take consistent action toward the goal and the greater, fuller expression of who you really are
Persistence, like victory, isn’t for sissies!
The Victory Challenge on this page spells out what you need to do.
4. Embrace Change
Some people would rather die than change. I think some people do. In Victorious Woman! I tell you about Annie, a woman I met after she was diagnosed with cancer. She was a fun lady who wanted to open a bridal shop. Unfortunately no one - not her spouse or children or friends - supported her dream. Rather than change anything in her life that would help her take steps in that direction, Annie chose to refuse any kind of treatment. I saw Annie right up until the day before she died. She was only 62.
If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've already got. Nothing will happen differently without change. This article will help you handle it.
5. Keep your Emotional Energy Flowing!
Find out how: Emotional Energy
Once you get this far, I can help you get through the challenges you are likely to face. I'll help you keep you going when obstacles come your way or when you feel so weary you think you'd like to quit. Here are a few teleseminars/webinars that can help:
- Vision Boards: Learn how to use the law of attraction using a Vision Board or Vision Book (or both). It includes the dos and don'ts of making a Vision Board/Book.
- Breaking Through Your Personal Glass Ceiling: Great tips for letting go of the "excess baggage" that's holding you back from being who your really are and doing what you really want to do.
- How To Talk so People Will Listen: It's all about the relationships. But you have to communicate effectively so that you get heard and get your point across. This webinar includes a DiSC personal profile that gives you a wealth of personalized insights.
To find more information about all our upcoming events, including any upcoming Kelly's Cafe open-forum/Q&A teleseminars, and to register, go to: EVENTS.