Public speaking is the Number One fear for many people. But in this day and age, in spite of all the benefits of social media, how you present yourself in person can make or break your career. Whether it’s during a job interview, a department meeting or a presentation to your whole company or [...]

Why Wilson Phillips Got in Bed with Perez Hilton

On a recent chapter of their reality show, Wilson Phillips was talking passionately about their comeback. They said one of the big issues was getting enough visibility. So that day they were being interviewed by Perez Hilton – in bed. Of course, the bedroom was [...]

You’re getting ready for a meeting. Somehow, you always seem to freeze up, have a hard time talking and don’t get your point across. As a woman who has been there, I’ve learned a lot things about dealing with ineffective communication and nervousness in the workplace. Here are a few things you can do [...]

We don’t try to push others in a particular direction; we try to pull them toward our ideas. Push takes muscle. Pull takes influence. Lois Frankel

When Sandra Day O’Connor became the first woman on the Supreme Court, I barely noticed anything political. But that day I paid attention to the news! Though she served on the Supreme Court for twenty-five years, Justice O’Connor still thinks of herself as a cowgirl; she doesn’t miss an opportunity to talk about her [...]

Women are usually pretty good at telling stories, just not usually about themselves – at least not in ways that put them in the best light. STOP IT!

In one of my favorite books, BRAG! The Art of Tooting Your Horn Without Blowing It, author Peggy Klaus tells her readers to write down stories [...]

When I was the Education Manager for a corporate university, the company VP used to say “When people know you and like you, they find a way to do business with you.” There’s truth to that, but it doesn’t tell the whole story – at least not for women. If it did, women would [...]

How are you going to influence anyone to take a chance on you if you can’t convince yourself? Confidence in yourself and your abilities gives people a sense of assurance that, in fact, you DO know what you are talking about. If you don’t feel confident, that great suggestion you have is going to [...]

Too many people have way too high an opinion of their skillset. I hear this complaint from Human Resources, management, team leaders in and customers of corporations and small businesses.

In my spouse’s practice, he often interviews people who think they are top-notch and he’d be lucky to have him or her. And maybe [...]

For the SmartWoman@Work, the Victorious Woman Project will be giving you ideas for creating more influence in your life.

Read more about Influence (this month’s theme) at http://bit.ly/xpHEVp and check back each week for tips for creating influence in the workplace.

If you have questions about creating influence in the workplace, or ideas [...]

I once heard the great Earl Nightingale talk about how we are all creatures of habit. There is something about a habit that gives us comfort. I find a cup of tea comforting at the end of a work day – and no ordinary cup of tea. I like Earl Gray or Chai Spice [...]

Women are often encouraged to forgo their own needs so that someone else can receive them. There is something to be said for being a little sacrificing, but when you treat everyone else better than you treat yourself, you are out of balance and suffering from something I call overcare. And it’ll kill you – one [...]

One of the biggest mistakes women make, and one that you have total power to change, is buying into your socialization.

Women are socialized differently than men. You surely know that an ambitious, career-focused man is thought of as a go-getter and leader while a woman who has the same qualities is thought of [...]

In the last post I asked you to day dream about the changes. This time my challenge to you is to pick a daydream, “paint” a mental picture of it and put yourself in the picture. Have fun with it, but pay attention to how you have to be different to be in the picture.

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If you knew you couldn’t fail, and asking was all you had to do to get something that would make your life better, what would you want?

Do you dream about a promotion, being a top executive in your company, having a better job in another company or owning your own business? Or [...]

One of my mentors, Robbie Motter, says that success is all about SHOWING UP. I think she’s right.

But what do you do when you show up? Here’s a tip from Barbara Bush: “You don’t just “luck into” things. You build step-by-step, whether it’s friendships or opportunities.”

This is a great time of year to [...]

Studies have shown that two-thirds of your success depends on your emotional competence. If you are reinventing your career/business, YOU INC) so that you will be more successful in the New Year, you have to marry your experience and expertise with emotional competence.

Over the years I’ve watched so many really smart women with a [...]

This tips article was posted last month on Daily Venus Diva.

I liked it enough to share it with you; the tips will help you with your YOU INC business planning.

http://bit.ly/s8Yd0J.

Let me know what you think.

Get a Jumpstart on your New Year’s Resolutions!

How to Reinvent Your Career

This month we’re going to connect December’s Victorious Woman of Emotional Intelligence to your career goals for the New Year. You can read about the basics of Emotional Intelligence in my article, EI: The Missing Link (post link).

For you, [...]

I just returned from a wonderful day in the Big Apple where I attended the NAFE Women of Excellence Award breakfast. Carol Evans, CEO of NAFE and President of Working Mother Media, was there and, about the Women of Excellence, emphasized its purpose, “Women standing up for women–that is what this award is all [...]

See Jane Lead: 99 Ways for Women to Take Charge at Work

When Lois Frankel explained how she chose the women she wove into the content of See Jane Lead, she said, “…if a woman didn’t pass my ‘very scientific’ beer test – Would I enjoy sitting down and having a beer with her – [...]

When I interviewed her for Victorious Woman, successful business owner Alisa Lippincott Morkides said, “We can learn a lot from men.” When she said it, I bristled. I was writing a book about women overcoming challenges on their own. I really didn’t want to hear about learning “men tricks” for success.

But then I [...]

Not everyone woman can start her own business, and YOU DID IT! Good for you!!

Now that you’ve gotten it started, let’s talk about how it will end. If you haven’t thought about your “end game” you’re making a mistake. Most SmartWoman@Work entrepreneurs will tell you that is the one thing they wished they’d [...]

While many women complain that they don’t get ahead in the workplace because of the proverbial glass ceiling, I’ve learned that the thing that inhibits and limits women the most is their personal glass ceiling. It’s the one build when you talk about yourself negatively (“that was dumb, but that’s me” or “I’ve always [...]

Emotional Competence focuses on your ability to eliminate the junk floating around in your own head so you can succeed at a task, project or goal.

While many women complain that they don’t get ahead in the workplace because of the proverbial glass ceiling. But I’ve learned that the one that inhibits women the most [...]

Energy

Summertime and the living is easy…that’s how most of us feel, isn’t it? You probably kick back a little, downshift into vacation mode and give yourself some much needed rest and relaxation. This is also the time when you can give yourself a much needed energy boost.

ENERGY means different things to different people. [...]

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” George Bernard Shaw

Annmarie’s take on this:

Sometimes we forget that communication is a two-way street. It includes: sender->message->receiver…who then responds: receiver->message->sender

Unless you have both ends, you don’t have communication. You aren’t connecting. In our techno-world, it’s like sending an [...]

Today is the 100th Anniversary of International Women’s Day (IWD). I’m honored to be the recipient of an IWD Service Award, for which I was nominated by mentor Robbie Motter. If you are one of the fortunate women to be in a city where there are IWD celebrations, you are sure to have a [...]

Catalyst just published a new survey about women in executive positions. It includes 497 of the Fortune 500 companies. Among the companies, 14.4% of the executive officers were women – based on the SEC proxy designation of “executive management” – and 15.7% of the board members were women.

Available for download from Catalyst: Read More...