Ok, the kids are back in school now. So what’s next? Are you planning to wait around until someone finds something for you to do, or are you going to take charge of your life and lead it in the direction that will fill your mind and satisfy your soul?
What’s that you say? You’ve been so busy with other things – and other people’s agendas, that you don’t know what you want? Well you aren’t alone. You are like the majority of women who are socialized to think of themselves as a mother, spouse, caregiver – all things that focus on someone else’s life and goals.
You really can have anything you want. The key is knowing what that is…and that’s the place most women get stuck.
So this month, you’ll focus on getting a vision for your future. Here are the first things you must do: Decide what you want. While this sound simple, I find that most women aren’t sure what it is that they want. So start with these two steps:
1 – Think about your next “big” birthday. What is the most outrageous way you can think of to celebrate it? Answer this: I’ve always wanted to do [X] but never did it because [X]. If you can’t think of anything go online and poke around. I used google to find these posts: http://www.upgradereality.com/100-crazy-things-to-do-before-you-die, www.girlfriendcelebrations.com, http://www.party411.com/PlanYourParty/Occasion/Birthday/AdultPlans.aspx. That should get your creative juices going.
2 - Make a list of everything you can possibly think of that would make you happy. And I mean EVERYTHING like losing ten pounds, having a new romance, starting a business, spending a summer in Maine or Tuscany, seeing that Broadway show or group you’ve been dreaming about… everything. Think big! Consider these bucket list ideas: http://www.trendhunter.com/slideshow/things-to-be-before-you-die,
3 – Once you’ve gotten everything written down, separate each item on that list into five columns: social, physical, financial, career/ professional and spiritual
4 – From each column, pick one item that is a “should do” and one item that is a “want to do”
NOTE: If you have trouble thinking about what you want, start by making a list of everything you DON’T want and find their opposite.
When you have a list that you are happy with and that jazzes you, make a Vision Board (link to directions article on resources pages).
Send me an email and let me know either how you do or how you need help. Or, go to the Victorious Woman Project’s facebook page and post it there.
And remember: you can have anything you want!!! Vision Victoriously!!!
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Founded by Annmarie Kelly, the Victorious Woman Project is a female empowerment resource containing articles, classes, books, podcasts and other tools for women over 40.