Being a "recovering good girl" has given me an interesting perspective. While I wasn't particularly subdued at home, I was shy and quiet outside the home. And, no matter where I was, I had the need to please.
When I finally spoke up, it felt scary but good; I kept going. When I first stood up for myself with an abusive sibling (in my twenties!), it was exhausting but powerful; I kept doing it until I felt safe.
Finding your voice can take a long time because it's woven together with finding your SELF. Maybe that's why I so like the wisdom of this quote by author Shannon L. Alder:
"Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret."
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